Picking up the Pieces – Helping Someone Cope with Grief
The moments following the death of a loved one are always full of intense emotions. It’s often difficult to find the right way to show you care to the grieving individual for different kinds of loss. They may feel overwhelmed with the outpouring support and the feelings of loss; most people offer their condolences and support at the onset of the loss, during the funeral, the burial, and the memorial reception. However, weeks later, a grieving person may find themselves feeling alone as their family and friends have understandably moved on with their own lives, thus creating a lack of support.
The Days That Follow
Not many people consider the fact that an individual might require even more help in the weeks following the loss. The flood of supportive friends is replaced by having to deal with the consequences of death such as getting rid of personal belongings, filing proper paperwork, taking care of added responsibilities, and going through the natural emotions/feelings of grief.
The sense of abandonment and loneliness starts to set in as the individual tries to find some way to come to terms with the loss. For many people, the days following the reception can be even harder than the day of the death of their loved one.
Therefore, we have compiled a list of tips to help someone you care about get through the weeks and months following the loss of their loved one.
Stay In Touch
Most people believe that just letting their grieving friend know they are “only a phone call away” is enough. We can sometimes go on with our lives thinking that if our loved ones need us, they will call us. If that phone call doesn’t come, we assume that they have moved on with their lives or want space. However, what usually happens is that the grieving individual often feels embarrassed to ask for help or do not want to be an inconvenience. Not to mention, it can be difficult for them to express their feelings. It is important to keep in touch regularly and give them specific ways you can be of help to them.
Mark Important Dates
Holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions can be extra hard for a grieving individual, especially during the first year following their loss. As a caring friend, you can mark the important dates that you think your grieving friend might find most difficult to spend alone. Let other friends and family members know and plan something that will help them get through those tough days with the love and support of their loved ones.
Create New Traditions
Create new traditions with your friend by taking them to new places they have never been before. This will help them create new memories and feel a sense of accomplishment towards moving forward with their lives. This will also take their mind off of the loss, even if only for a short while, they will feel a sense ease and tranquillity being in the present with you.
Show You Care Through KikuPal
The one thing that can make it harder to get back to a new routine is taking care of the responsibilities that they used to share with the deceased. Even something as simple as grocery shopping or running errands can reignite painful memories and feelings of loss, as well as, create stress or a sense of guilt for not taking care of daily chores as efficiently as they used to before. As a friend, you can help them feel supported while taking care of these daily tasks by creating an account for them at KikuPal.
KikuPal’s online grief support platform provides valuable resources that can help your friend during the weeks following their loss. You can purchase gift points for them, which they can redeem for services such as meal delivery, house cleaning, lawn care, and much more, providing a unique way for them to get practical support when they need it most, while you create those new traditions with them. Let KikuPal take care of the delegatable and mundane tasks, while you make new memories with your friend.